By Holly

In this prior post on the personal decision to go hairless on your sweetest spot, I briefly touched on a subject I’d like to revisit. It’s something that comes up when you’re in a relationship all the time, and it centers around getting on the same page with your partner.

Though this certainly applies to many different situations, the one I’m going to address is on sexuality and venturing into new territory with your lover. I cannot tell you the hundreds of conversations I’ve had with friends over the years (including one this past weekend) about this very topic. It usually happens rather unexpectedly, in a blurted fashion, (i.e. “Do you know what he/she asked me to do when we were in bed?) and with some slight to severe emotional trauma attached to it.

Though I’m certainly no therapist, my experience and opinion seems to jive with the general professional consensus in that the key to successful exploration starts with clear communication. This means, simply, if your partner wants to try something sexually with you that’s out of your comfort zone, you need to discuss it clearly and thoroughly. Just because one of you may have a desire, if it doesn’t work for both of you, or if you can’t make it work (or don’t want to) than a compromise is necessary in these situations.

I mean, you can also employ some of the great advice available out there, but to me, when something as important as your sexual comfort is on the line,  a level of peace needs to be achieved, in order for it to be enjoyable and fun. Otherwise, it’s just not worth doing — don’t you agree?

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