by Sophia Marcel

Lose the routine.  We’re all creatures of habit, but even orgasms can start to feel unremarkable if you depend on the same tricks to get you there every time, says Rebecca Chalker, author of The Clitoral Truth.  The next time you’re having fun in bed, don’t go straight from point A to point O; the more you vary your sexual routine, the more things you’ll discover about what you like–and what you love. Sure, it’ll take longer than the tried-and-true way you’re used to but if James Joyce could make Molly Bloom’s orgasm last for 37 breathtaking pages in Ulysses (“…I put my arms around him yes and drew him down to me so he could feel my breast all perfume yes and his heart was going like mad and yes I said yes…”), you can probably hold out for an extra minute or two, right?

Take time to explore and understand your body.  Yes it sounds hippie-dippie, but they used to say that about yoga too. And knowledge often equals pleasure.

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